Maybe you’re a person who gets an idea—a great idea—and then carries out a structured, well organized analysis of its feasibility, easily makes a ‘go-no go’ decision and then works single-mindedly until your great idea becomes reality. Well good for you. I’m not one of you.
I’m one of those multi-passionate people who have loads of ideas and sometimes find myself overwhelmed with possibilities and struggling to decide whether to go for it or move on to the next big idea. Well, actually, I’m almost cured now. I’m much much better at weeding out the bad ideas and committing whole-heartedly to the great ones.
Much of the credit for my new focus has to be given to Christine Kane. I took her Uplevel Your Life Program a few years ago and I learned something so profound and yet so simple that it changed my life. I really wish I could find the email or newsletter with this tidbit in it so I could just copy and paste here (with appropriate credits of course) but I can’t. Therefore I am just going to tell you in my own words. It’s so simple that I feel kind of silly not having thought of it myself.
If it’s not a Hell Yes, it’s a Hell No.
That’s it! How cool is that? Whenever you’re making a decision—about anything really—ask yourself, is this a Hell Yes! If you hesitate for a minute and think about it, perhaps let a little “well…….” sneak in, then it’s a Hell No!
If you can respond immediately with a resounding Hell Yes, it means that your gut is telling you, “Go for it!” and you can confidently pursue that goal or take that action or buy that coat or order that shrimp…or whatever. You know, deep down inside, what is best for you and what you want to do and if you can get in touch with that part of you that knows, then you will never have to struggle with doubt again.
But here’s the rub: many of us have buried that part of ourselves that has that understanding of what is in our own best interest. We have buried it and can’t access it when we need help. We are so used to pushing down our own wants and needs and giving in to the wants and needs of others that we can’t even remember that we have wants and needs of our own, let alone access them and let them guide us.
So sad. We have this inner voice—our Universal Guidance System—and we’ve taken the batteries out. We’ve shut it down and have to navigate our way around this life full of possibilities without any guidance at all.
When I’m working with my Assertive Life Coaching clients, I ask them to get back in touch with that inner voice. After all, assertiveness means that you recognize what you want and need and think and then ask for it in a positive, respectful manner. So it follows that the first step is to know what you want, need and think.
Here’s what I ask them to do: reconnect with their inner voice and then, several times a day, check in and ask, “How am I feeling right now?” “What do I want right now?” “What do I need right now?” I ask them to set up a system to make sure they do that several times a day, perhaps setting an alarm on their IPhone. It may take a while before they start to get an answer, but eventually they can feel the little stirrings that means their Universal Guidance System is powering up.
Once they know what they want, need and think they can begin to express it, assertively of course. And it’s not a big leap after that to being able to ask themselves:
Is it a Hell Yes?
Next time you’re feeling torn between two options, stop for a second, check in with your Universal Guidance System and ask,
“Is it a Hell Yes?”
If you get a resounding, “Hell Yes” for an answer—go for it. If you get silence, or a tentative, “Maybe”….well, you know the answer. It’s a Hell No!
Try it and let me know—were you able to connect? Did the answer come in loud and clear? I’d love to hear.
What great ideas have you said Hell Yes! to. Tell me about them.