I want to take you back to a time long ago and maybe far away. Back to the moment in time when your mother and your father came together in a moment of primal intimacy and two bundles of cells containing completely different DNA collided and became one. The unique bundle of cells that was created in that moment contained the blueprint for the person you are now.
Do you have any idea how unique you are? Ryan J. Sokol of Texas A&M University calculated the odds of someone EXACTLY like you being born. First he estimated the total number of fertile men and women in the world, calculated the number of different genetic possibilities a man might contribute, adjusted for the number of hours of female fertility each month and then factored in a long list of other considerations. After all that math, far far too complicated for me to understand, he stated that, “The chance that you, meaning exactly you, would ever be born are 1 in 1.3 times ten to the twenty-ninth power.” So in not much simpler terms, the odds of another you being born are 130,000,000,000,000,000,000,000, 000,000 to one. To put that in perspective, according to a CBC News report on November 9, 2009, your chances of being killed by lightning are 1 in 56,439 and your chances of winning over $15 million in the lottery are about 1 in 28,633,528. You are so lucky to be alive and so lucky to be you!
No one like you has ever existed before and no one like you will ever exist again, or at least the likelihood of that is so remote as to be considered impossible. Add to that the influence of environment. Even twins, who are more alike than two strangers or even two fraternal siblings, still continue to develop their own uniqueness as they grow and develop and interact with the world and people around them. Though you might have grown up in a household with the same parents, going to the same school, you and your brother or sister see every single event from a different perspective, react to it in a different way and change as a result of that event to a different degree. It boggles the mind!
Your purpose in undertaking this amazing adventure on earth and the life path you were born to follow is just as unique as you are. However, from the moment of your birth, you are conditioned to fit into a certain mold. You quickly learn what is acceptable and what isn’t. You soon forget how unique you are and that you came here to experience your own adventure. You are trained to ‘fit in’ and be like everyone else.
To some extent this works well for us. We learn social skills so that we can interact with others, make friends, get what we want and need to thrive, and become a contributing member of our chosen society. We learn the language of our ‘tribe’, table manners, how to use money. We learn the history of our culture so that we have a reference point for our place in time and space. All of this conditioning is crucial to our ability to function effectively in society.
But it comes with a price. We lose some of our individuality and we lose our way. That’s when we begin to wander instead of following our life path. That’s when we start to wonder who we are and what we should be doing. We feel lost and empty because we’ve lost the connection to our deepest self—the self who chose to come here and embark on this great and wondrous journey. We feel a yearning for ‘more’.
That yearning is Future Pull. It’s your deepest self calling out to be let free. Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you have to sell all your belongings and head off into the wilderness to live alone—well, not unless that’s what you really want to do. Surprisingly, you’ll probably find that you’ve had some clues as to where you should be heading and you may have already taken some steps in that direction. Your dreams and wishes are like little gold nuggets that wash up on the bank of a stream. They are just clues to the rich gold vein that lies so close.
Originally the term Future Pull was coined to describe a strategic planning process for businesses. A team would create a compelling vision for the future of the company so that everyone would align with it and be inspired to achieve it. It was a first step in developing organizational goals and objectives.
Future Pull can also be compared to the way the DNA in all living things acts as a blueprint for the organism. When an apple seed grows, it becomes an apple tree – not a maple tree or an oak tree. When a robin’s egg hatches, an eagle doesn’t struggle out. A cat won’t give birth to a rabbit. The entire apple tree, robin or cat is contained in the collection of living cells that transforms into a full-grown tree, bird or animal. Just as they should. It’s one of the laws of the Universe. Of course, just as with us, environment plays a part too. The apple tree will only grow to its full potential if it has the right conditions – good soil, sun, water.
The difference between that tree and you is that, as a human, you have free will and the ability to exercise it. The tree can’t pull up its roots and head for sunnier ground. But you can. You are self-determining and have the ability to choose your direction in life and seek out what you need to become your very best self.
There is another way to describe Future Pull and this is the meaning proposed in this book. This view of Future Pull challenges us to take a Perspective of Unlimited Possibility in our view of time. As we discussed previously, most people think of time as a line that extends from the past–way back there–to the future– way up ahead. They see it as a smooth, unbroken, straight line with a little point labelled ‘now’. What if time is not a constant, unbroken, arrow? What if it circles round and bends back on itself? What if there are different realities and dimensions and ‘right now’ is happening in all of them? We’ve seen that science is exploring the nature of time and that what they are finding creates more questions than it answers.
As I have suggested, we are self-determining and live our lives–our lives don’t live us. But just maybe, the flow of time is such that the future is up there already ahead of us and we have the power, with our minds, to create the life that we move into. Perhaps we can create a future so clear and so powerful that it pulls us toward it effortlessly.
The idea of creating your own reality is not a new one. After all, we know that if, for example, someone you accept as knowledgable and credible tells you that you have an 80% chance of getting ill or dying, there’s a good chance that you will, in fact, get ill or die. If you believe that something will happen and you focus on it, there’s a pretty good chance that what you think will happen, will in fact come to pass. We call that a self-fulfilling prophecy. We usually see that in a negative context. But it doesn’t have to be a negative self-fulfilling prophecy. You can predict a positive experience and have that come to pass too.
That is what Future Pull is all about. Future Pull is when you envision your future with such clarity and power that it literally pulls you towards it. Things fall into place, synchronicity happens, opportunities arise, and you move closer and closer to your vision of the future–without pain and struggle. Sound miraculous?
Miracles happen every day. They are only miracles because we don’t yet have an explanation. Keep your mind open to the possibilities. Adopt a Perspective of Unlimited Possibility.