It’s time to dream! It’s time to create your vision of your ideal life so that the path to reach it can unfold effortlessly. It’s time to set the power of Future Pull in motion. This will be fun. Are you ready?
I know that this process works. I’ve seen it work with many people and I’ve experienced it myself. I’ve already described my first successes with the Ideal Day process, when I first started using it and created that clear vision of my future home, dog, vehicle and business. But what about all those people who set goals and work so diligently and fail to accomplish what they set out to do? Perhaps you’ve found that yourself.
Twenty-five years ago when I first started exploring the concepts I’m presenting here, I taught various techniques for goal-setting, decision-making, stress management and time management. Some worked and some were disappointing failures.
The usual model for setting and achieving life goals back in those days was something called S.M.A.R.T. This was an acronym, still in use today, that meant goals must be Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time-defined. I would go through the accepted process of helping people to come up with realistic, achievable and measurable goals and then to set smaller objectives and timelines for achievement. It was often frustrating to me to see people who were really committed and hard-working, with good hearts and good intentions, setting goals that were S.M.A.R.T. and plowing towards them relentlessly – and failing.
On the other hand, sometimes I would have clients who would refuse to be what I saw as ‘realistic’ and, instead of setting S.M.A.R.T. goals, would resolutely, against my advice, set D.U.M.B. goals. Dogged, Unusual, Mindless, but totalled Believed-In goals. And they would achieve them. In fact, sometimes the circumstances would be amazing or even miraculous. Synchronicity would happen. Coincidences would occur. Opportunities would fall into place. And those silly clients who were blindly committed to their dream would achieve things that just seemingly were unachievable.
I felt like a failure myself when I was going by the book, guiding clients through the S.M.A.R.T. process and watching them try so hard, work so hard, and fail miserably. I wanted to help. What made it even more difficult for me, and I’m sure for them as well, was that I was one of those people who had seemingly impossible dreams ‘just happening’. Yes, I was one of those dreamers who set D.U.M.B. goals and achieved them, while trying to convince others that they needed to be S.M.A.R.T. If I could do it for myself, why couldn’t I help others.
I had one friend in particular that I cared about very much and I watched him struggle and strive toward his goals. No one could have worked harder! In spite of physical and emotional stress and challenges he persevered and worked endlessly every single day. It was like he was struggling up an endless mountain with a heavy pack on his back, slipping back every few steps on loose rocks. He never made progress but always kept trying. He was the essence of S.M.A.R.T. and it just didn’t work. Why not?
I started to take a good look at those who achieved dreams, even amazing dreams, against all odds and sometimes without a great deal of struggle. I compared them with people who set goals by the book, laid out their objectives, set tasks to accomplish them and did all the things they needed to do when they needed to do it. I discovered the key to achieving your dreams without effort.
Remember, my first Ideal Day and how it all came true? Well it didn’t ALL come true. My first Ideal Day had me living on the West coast by the ocean. Since I had family and friends on Vancouver Island who wanted me to move there, that wouldn’t even have been an unrealistic goal to aspire to, but I didn’t achieve it. So why did I not achieve it? That was the one part of my Ideal Day that didn’t come to pass. Looking back, I believe it was because I was conflicted about it. It wasn’t really my dream – it was the dream of my friends and family that I had assumed.
I like living by water. In fact, I live right by the largest inland lake in the world. Because my friends and family were on the coast, I was trying to incorporate that into the vision of my future that I was creating. But the problem was, there were some real negatives for me about living out there. I didn’t like the idea of living on an island, with ferry line-ups to get to the mainland, too much family (which can definitely be a plus or a minus), and earthquakes! And then the big one – my son would be all the way across the country! When you are conflicted about your dreams, when they are other people’s dreams rather than your own, the pull isn’t there and you probably won’t achieve them.
The other key as to whether your dream is powerful enough to pull you is whether you believe you can have it or believe you deserve it. The belief and intent have to be whole-hearted, not buried in doubt, for it to pull you.
If you set the goal of winning the lottery, and you focus on that and use all of the tools introduced in this guide, you may still have an inkling of doubt about your ability to really win the lottery. After all, you hear the odds all the time. You’ve bought tickets before and won nothing. I’ve already mentioned that the odds of winning a lottery of over $15 million are lower than your odds of being struck by lightning. These thoughts are enough of a wet blanket to douse your flame of intent and destroy the power of Future Pull.
If you set a goal for yourself that you don’t really believe you deserve or are worthy of, the same thing happens. You may set that goal and try to keep your eye on it but if, in your heart, you believe that you are aspiring too high, you subconsciously lower your sights. You are no longer focused on your dream. You are looking down and have distracted yourself from your real dream. I believe that was the problem for my friend. He didn’t really believe he deserved the outcome he was striving for and he let his focus waver.