Perhaps the most difficult part of the whole Law of Attraction thing is the Allowing part. Allowing is when you get out of your way, wait with anticipation and welcome your future into your life. Feeling desperate or needy or pacing the floor wondering when you the U.P.S. (Universal Postal Service) is going to show up, is the very opposite of Allowing. It’s the equivalent of ordering something, my book perhaps, from Amazon, and then moving the very next day without leaving a forwarding address.
“So, Jackie,” you ask, “How the heck am I supposed to desire something and visualize and focus on something that I want, without being needy. Obviously, I want it badly or I wouldn’t be spending all this time visualizing and making vision boards and writing intentions.”
Remember, being grateful for right now is essential to creating the necessary thought and feeling environment that will attract positive things into your life. But if you are grateful right now, how do you balance that with wanting something more? You’re either grateful and satisfied with right now, or you’re not and you want to bring something else in, right?
I’m a big fan of Plato so I will create an allegory to explain this conundrum.
Imagine that one day you set out on a spring hike with your dog. You’re dressed in your hiking boots, a fleece jacket and you have a packsack with some sandwiches and water. After about an hour of hiking into the woods, or the bush as we call it up here in the north, you happen upon a clearing.
It’s absolutely amazing. In the distance you can see snow topped mountains. The grass is green, the trees are just coming into leaf, and the air is full of bird calls. Perhaps there are some non-scary type animals along the edge of the trees—rabbits or baby deer—not bears or wolves. You walk over to a river that runs through the clearing and sit beside it to eat your sandwich. The river bubbles over rocks and occasionally a fish jumps up and plonks back into the cool water. Your dog splashes into the water for a drink and then lays in the sun beside you. You can smell the sweet scent of new growth and you lay back and gaze at the clouds as they drift by. You think to yourself, ‘This is so perfect. I’m so happy I found this place. I’ll have to remember where it is.”
That’s gratitude for what you have and where you are.
As you lay there, watching the clouds and starting to drift off, you start to imagine what it will be like in a month or so. You can imagine the trees in full bloom. Perhaps there will be flowers throughout the field. The days will be warmer and you imagine yourself hiking in with just a shirt on and a hat to shield your face. You decide that you’ll bring a friend and a full picnic and you’ll spend a couple of hours here enjoying the quiet and the beauty. You start to imagine it so clearly that you can almost feel the heat of the sun. It will be much quieter too because the birds and animals will be sleeping in the heat of the day. You are full of anticipatory joy at the thought of what it will be like.
That’s visualizing and desiring what you want to experience in the future!
Just because you are looking forward to the summer day when you will be back in the clearing, doesn’t take away from the pleasure you feel right now. You don’t start thinking, “Well this sucks! The leaves aren’t all out yet and there aren’t any flowers.”
Imagine how that would take away from the serenity of the moment. You’d probably get up and stomp out of the clearing without even looking back. You’d not only take away from the pleasure of the moment but you would completely repulse the perfect future that you imagined.
No, instead, you are fully in the moment, experiencing the pleasure of the sights, the sounds, and the scents of the here and now. Even so, you are anticipating the perfection of the future summer day.
So often we focus on what is wrong and imagine the future we want from a place of discontent and lack, a place that is not going to create the attraction energy that will pull in the future that you want.
For example, even when I was so poor that I was selling my furniture to pay rent, I loved to window shop. I couldn’t afford anything but I could look at the stuff I liked and day dream about what my house would look like when I could afford it. On the other hand, my sister would never go with me. She always said what was the point, it just made her dissatisfied because she couldn’t buy what she wanted.
That’s why I suggest that after you create a picture of your ideal day with everything you want to be, do or have, you identify all the things that you currently are, do, or have. Then revel in those present blessings while anticipating the ones that are flowing to you right now. Before you know it, you’ll be enjoying what you today as well as what you wished for today.