Have you ever known a Psychic Vampire? They don’t dress all in goth. They come out during the day. They don’t sleep in coffins. They can see themselves in mirrors. But there are still some signs that they are near. When you feel your natural positive energy and enthusiasm seeps out as if you’ve been punctured, you’ve probably been in contact with a Psychic Vampire. Even though they don’t feast on your blood, they are just as deadly as real vampires (if you can use real and vampire in the same sentence).
We live in an energy soup. As part of the great Universe we are intimately connected to everything and everyone around us. That’s why others can so profoundly affect our energy level, our mood, our motivation and our happiness and why we so profoundly affect others. What a great responsibility! We not only have to be careful not to negatively affect the energy of others through careless words; we have to be on guard so that others don’t suck the joy out of our own lives.
Joanne Waytowich is a multi-talented Thunder Bay woman who, through her alter-ego, Ivanka, delivers a stand-up comedy/motivational routine that warns us about those ‘poo poo people’. Ivanka, a loud, enthusiastic middle-aged woman of some indeterminate European heritage, has starred in five full-length musicals, toured Canada from coast to coast, written advice columns, and even has a day named after her in Barrie, Ontario. In her one-person show, Ivanka Chews the Fat, Joanne Waytowich, a social worker by profession, presents ten points for a personal tune-up. Point number three is simple: don’t spend time with ‘poo poo’ people.
We all have ‘poo poo’ people in our lives and they aren’t all Psychic Vampires. Some are well-meaning, they just want to warn you away from what they view as ‘danger’ and in doing so, skewer your dreams and drain your enthusiasm and joy. Then there are those who seem to be just so full of ‘poo’ that they just want to share. You know the type. They see the world through mud-colored glasses and think that those of us with rose-colored glasses are just vision-impaired. While they are exhausting to be around and can drag down your mood, they aren’t malignant children of the devil (okay so I’m being melodramatic).
Then we have the true Psychic Vampires. These are the people who, for their own reasons, truly do intend the damage they do. Sometimes they are the people who need to put others down to feel better about themself.
Some are actually narcissists and sociopaths. Did you know that sociopathy is far more common than most people know? Apparently at least 1 out of 25 people rate fairly high on the sociopathy scale. Sociopathy is a continuum. One large organization funded a study to identify sociopathic tendencies, thinking that perhaps they could hire people who scored at some level of sociopathy so that they’d be more ruthless as managers and not be so likely to have gentle feelings about employees that might stop them from cracking down when necessary. However, it turned out that because sociopaths are totally self-focused, they really had no loyalty to the company either so they were too much of a risk.
Psychic Vampires may rate fairly high on the sociopathy scale, truly not caring about the impact that their words or actions have on other people. The problem is that true sociopaths are often charming and charismatic. They are able for a time, to imitate the natural feelings of ‘normal’ people and appear to be caring and empathetic. But it is a false front and takes energy to maintain so at some point the façade cracks and you can see through it to the cold dark inside.
Psychic Vampires are disastrous to your energy level and should be avoided at all costs. How will you know when you’ve run into a Psychic Vampire? You won’t see puncture wounds in your throat but if you could see the edges of your energy field, you’d probably see a few holes there.
If, after exchanging a few words with someone, you feel puzzled and think, “Was I just insulted? Did that person just put me down?” Well then, yeah, you probably were. If after sharing your dreams with someone, you feel completely deflated and have no enthusiasm or belief in them anymore, then you probably shared them with a Psychic Vampire. If you try to stand up for yourself or your ideas and are accused of taking it personally or misunderstanding, I suggest you trust your instincts and avoid that person because Psychic Vampires are skilled at turning the tables.
Maintaining our energy and positive outlook is crucial; we need a high level of attention and intention to help us manifest our goals. Allowing a ‘poo poo’ person or Psychic Vampire to infiltrate your energy field and suck it dry will set you back for days or weeks.
So how can you deal with the energy suckers? Fighting won’t help. They feed on that because let’s face it fighting is negative and they love negative. Just turn your back and walk away. Follow Ivanka’s suggestion and “don’t spend time – any time – with ‘poo poo’ people”.